HE HITS ME EVEN IN MY CONDITION

Good day friends, sorry I couldn’t post any relationship issues last weekend that because i have certain restrictions for  most of them to be posted but i have few relationship issue to share with you so please stay with me and also comment your advice to them. Cheers.

Dear RPB,
I have been married for two years now and i have a handsome boy to show for it while am expecting another in four month time, but am not happy in my marriage, there is no week my husband won’t hit me like a child from any little provocation or argument. The first time it happened we were still dating with our wedding just a few weeks away, we had an argument and he gave me a terrible slap that almost deafen me i was the one who ended up apologizing that day and since then after our marriage it still continues even in my condition. I don’t know what to do because i can’t stand the shame to tell my people that my husband beat me. Please tell me what to do before he kills me.

Dear RPB Friend,
Your case is very serious because wife battery is a serious issue that should not be taken for granted. I think the best thing you should do is to notify all family member of this situation there is no shame in letting all family members know what's going on in your marriage, the shame actually belongs to your husband that hit you. You actually should be blamed in the first place for not reacting to this situation on time before you got married but I will strongly advice you don’t remain silent in that kind of marriage because it will continue for the rest of your life if care is not taken, if necessary report him to the authority because wife battery is a crime or any family member he respects but you must let him know is not alright to lay his hands on you. If you want him to stop hitting you then their should be consequences for laying his hands on you.



                                                                                                        Dear RPB,

Am 26 years old and still a virgin and it been difficult to maintain a relationship if i insist that it should be platonic.  I have lost good relationship from guys because of my stand and my friends are saying that I can’t have a successful relationship without sex. And now there is this guy I have been dating for six month,  initially when I told him my stand that I don’t want to indulge in sexual activity until marriage, he was cool with it but after six month in the relationship he is insisting we have sex or he will end the relationship. He has been so nice to me and has really proved his love for me and I also love him I don’t want to loose him, as am writing to you RBP am considering giving myself to him and it's making me confuse.

Dear Friend,
I must tell you categorically that is okay to keep yourself until you are married there is nothing absolutely wrong with that, as for your friends well they are wrong because a successful relationship is not based on sex but on love and respect for one another and any guy that truly loves you will respect your decision to keep yourself until after marriage. My dear you said this guy has proved his love for you well there is another huddles for him to go through and that is to respect your decision and if he can’t trust me let him go while you keep your virginity, it means he does not deserve you, how are you sure he won’t leave after he had his way with you, will it not hurt more losing two things including your virtue?. Think about it.  

Dear RPB,
Am in a dilemma right now and I wish something can be done to help me before I go insane. I have been having a healthy relationship with my boy friend  for almost four years and we really love each other, we are the envy of couples because if you know us we are completely inseparable and enjoys each other company. Just recently I received an enormous surprise from him it was an engagement ring, he proposes to me and he wants the wedding to commence as soon as possible. Well my family and I have this Pentecostal church we attend, and in the past my parents have consulted the pastor for spiritual issues so they are confident about his spiritual guidance. When I told my mum about the good news from my boyfriend he took me to the man of God with the picture of my guy for his spiritual guidance and what came out of his mouth next surprises me greatly, he said I should never marry this man that he is trouble and I will never be happy in the marriage because the spirit of darkness is covering his head and so on. Tell me, should I just let the only man I have ever loved go just like that because of this?

Dear Friend
You don’t have to go insane because of this and my advice to you will be straight to the point because I don’t see a serious issue here. First of all someone you have dated for four year now don’t you think you are better off than your pastor to predict what the future will look like for both of you? Don’t get me wrong it okay to seek for spiritual guidance but I think this is your decision to make and no one else because it your happiness that matters, if you know you have find love and love has found you then accept it and pray for it to be stronger than ever and not run away from it because of the fear of the unknown. You can always seek for second opinion for your spiritual guidance maybe, but I must emphasis you don’t take decisions based on spiritual predictions alone. THANKS AND CHEERS


Well that all for now but please posts your advice for our friends here because it will go a long way in helping other similar relationship issues. Cheers from RPB