Some ladies' mind goes straight to, and start thinking of; the wedding, asoebi, the wedding gifts and crowd that will cheer them up, and they will rush and say, "YES!". My dear, there is more to that question than just the euphoria of the wedding ceremony. That question simply means....
*Will you be with me forever, for better, for worse?
*Will you tolerate my bad characters?
*Are you woman enough to handle the cons of marriage?
*Will you be the mother of my kids and help me to help them grow well?
*Will you still be there when there is no money? Or
*Will you kick my ass and flee away when am down and out?
*Would you still love me if I be a big jack ass?
*Will you always be there for me, to tolerate me, endure with me/can you be patient enough to correct me with love and give me advice when I am wrong?
*Will you still keep fit for me for as long as we are married?
*Will you keep doing those things you do even before I proposed to you?
*Will you always be understanding and tolerant?
*Are you matured enough to manage your home?
And a whole lot of attitudinal and circumstancial wahala you can think of in marriage.
There are a lot of things to consider before marriage. If we really have some of these in mind before marriage and know that marraige is'nt all cozy, it's a package, whatever you see when you open it is what you take.
This is not to say there is less Joy in marriage. As a matter of fact marriage is a thing of joy and there should be more of happy times than sad times (it cannot be all cozy as we all know, so the bad times is expected). That is why you have to be conscious of such times, be able to detect when it is coming, and have control over it even before it surfaces (as prevention in that case is better than solution), that is one thing that makes you matured enough in marriage.
Nevertheless, try as much as possible to totally avoid such bad times..The man and wife has the sole duty to work in love and unity against this.
Do not get married just because he iz rich and handsome. Too much considerations on factors like; he is not upto my class, he is too short/tall, he iz too fat/slim should not be the first criteria. Once he is upto the task of manly responsibilities, and able to take care of you and the kids with love and attention to the family, that is enough. Depending on how you like it; LOVE can make a slim man want to add weight for his wife, can make a fat man want to shredd some fats same way ladies try to keep fit for their man depending on how he wants it too.. That is to say LOVE is RECIPROCAL and capable of achieving great results (in whatsoever area you work with it on) when reciprocated.
Do not marry because of pressure; be it parental, religious or peer pressure. Because you aint responsible for the pressure you succumb to (as you were pushed into it), but you are responsible for its aftermath (as it was still your decision to succumb to it). So do not succumb to destructive pressures. Becareful of the pressure(s) you succumb to. Know what you want, so you won't have to blame another for it when it turns sour (blames does not correct mistakes).
Women/Ladiez! God gave y'all good gifts, when you get into a man's house as his wife, the good luck in you comes out and your husband will prosper, so the need to be careful in your dealings with your life and or lifestyle(s). It is vice-versa though, no man/woman wants a woman/man that will bring bad luck for them.
Do not weaken your man, soften him rather coz as the NECK, you play a major role to either weaken the HEAD (making thing hard for him, yourself and the kids), or soften it (making things easy/smooth for him, yourself and the kids). Allow him be the HEAD as God has made it so..
For Just as the rotation of the HEAD is made easy with the aid of a good NECK, so is a prosperous man with the aid of a good woman/wife.
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