•My daughter, don’t cause a separation between your
man and his siblings; it could be dangerous for you
when they finally speak with one voice.
•My daughter, I know that some of you girls
don’twish to marry a man whose mother is still alive,
don’t ever think like that, if you do, well, I think your
son’s wife-to-be should start wishing you're dead
now.
•My daughter, listen to me, when I married your
father, he was as tiny as his salary but I chose to
grow with him and today, those cars out there are
some of the results of what we started so little,
together, and we’re proud looking at them.
• My daughter, well, yes, I once locked up the cloth of
your father because I got to my limit of patience and
that was the only thing I could do, but one thing I
haven’t said was that we settled the issue that same
day and that was the last time I tried that.
• My daughter, look up there. That’s the wedding
picture of your father and I, look at him smiling, I
know you've seen it many times but what you did
not know is that your father was angry before taking
this picture, I hope you find a man whose anger
doesn't last till the next day.
• My daughter, when your Father was riding a
bicycle, I was always happy to hop on it and ride with
him, not because I didn't see those men in their little
cars but because my eyes also saw those men
trekking to their farms.
• My daughter, if you and your husband eat a little
food with love, you both would be satisfied. Times are
not always the same; support him in every phase
he’s passing through.
• My daughter, a man would respect you and be more
proud of you if you’re learned and not totally
dependent on him. Strive to make your own money
and while you're at it, be humble.
• My daughter, under the cocoa tree that I did meet
with your Father was open and good enough for our
discussions, yes; it was open and good enough if you
understand what I mean.
• My daughter, in our time, we had sexy legs and firm
bosoms to show our men , in fact, we had
the finest ones, yet, when we dress, we cover those
parts of our body, not because we were not civilized
as you people would call it, but because we know
that the eyes of men are hungry, many of them would
only come, touch and go their way.
• My daughter, there is this thing you girls now
practice, they say it’s feminism. Well, you can prove
to be equal to a man in the society but please,not in
your marriage because at my old age, I don’t want to
start counting your husbands.
• My daughter, marriage is not a Rehabilitation
Centre, if he’s not good enough for you before
marriage, nothing he does would be good enough
after marriage.
• My daughter, you can see I still wear my night
gown , yes, because to my husband; your father, I
still want to look sexy. So, take good care of your
body,look good for your man and don’t look like a
grandma after giving birth.
• My daughter, I’m your mother and still, I'm not
interested in you coming to me always if anything
goes wrong with your husband. Though nowadays I
see some mothers controlling the homes of their
sons and daughters, I would only say; shame on
them!
• My daughter, for you to have a peaceful home and
well-trained children, have one voice with your
husband, join him to say NO when he’s saying NO
before the kids but later when you both are alone,
you can plead with him for a YES,if not, the children
will see a loophole to misbehave, either to
you or their father.
• My daughter, if you chose to live together with a
man that you’re yet to be married to , and you are
complaining that he hasn't proposed to you, oh, he
already did. Whatever he said that made you start
living with him was his proposal.
• My daughter, your generation does not see any
pride in been a virgin before marriage, it’s a shame!
Your father met me a virgin and he brought more
yams to my parents and up till today, he’s still proud
of me when we discussing that direction.
• My daughter, I know that no man out there is
complete, but when you are looking for your tall,
slim, fair and handsome, if he’s a woman-beater,
please, go for the short, fat, dark and ugly that will
give you the respect you deserve as a woman.
• My daughter, know, learn and respect the culture
and lifestyle of whoever you chose to marry . In
some part of Africa, you kneel down to greet your
man’s parents while in some part outside Africa; you
can even call them by their firstname and ask for a
handshake. Whatever they believe in, if
you've chosen him, believe it with him also.
• My daughter, don’t ever try to date a married man,
whether his excuse was that he doesn't find
happiness with his wife or he would have married you
if he had met you first, if you ever try it, I curse you
already.
• My daughter, when I say over 52 years of
marriage , it wasn't that I did not see any reason to
leave your father, I saw a lot of them but I bear his
faults, I forgave him to stay married.
• My daughter, these are part of the wisdom I have
gathered over the years and if I had taken my time to
tell you all these, and your marriage doesn't last like
that of your father and I, then I had wished I never
gave birth to you..
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