LIES ABOUT LOVE

**Love is a feeling
Feelings are temporal swings that build up in the mind. It is
subjected to mood, situation or events that occurred within a
particular period of time. However, when love is built on
feelings, it will not last long. This is why some people can
just say “I don’t love him/her anymore” without quarrel or
misunderstanding. This happened when the flames of
feeling cease to burn. Isn’t that surprising?

**Love don’t cost a thing
How true could that be? Do you know that love demands time,
efforts put together to make it work, resources and lots of
energies that must have been expended? Love is ‘expensive’
in the sense that you must be committed to who you love, you
must pay the price to make it work which demands attention,
expression and provision of the things that could make the life
of who you love better. Lust and feelings are inexpensive
because they are selfish.
 

**Love is blind
Infatuation and lust are the blind pattern of love. Because of its 
sudden development, infatuation will not see certain things in a 
partner which could have a daring consequence in the relationship. 
Infatuation will prevent you from seeing warning signs that can make
you quit the relationship. When love is blind, it keeps people in
an abusive relationship, makes them battered and ruins their life. 
Love is not blind, it sees, it listens and it’s open to receive instructions.

 **Sex is a symbol of love
Can sex be the only sustaining force for a 50 year old marriage? Not so. 
Many believe that a relationship cannot thrive without sex. 
Love and sex are two different terms. Some ladies/guys would ask 
their partner to prove their love to them by giving them sex. That’s not 
love but lust and the trending expression of love. Love shows commitment 
and sacrifice  to a partner while sex is a means of sharing intimate
pleasure among  married couples. Any single lady/guy that demands
sex only wants to ruin your life or fill his/her sexual appetite. 
Relationships built on sex will  never thrive when sex cease to be given. 
Many have being fooled by this belief and will still be fooled. 
Don’t be the next victim.
 

**Love is wicked
Biblical qualities of love described it to be gentle and full
of good works. I use to tell people that who you fall in love
with will determine your definition of love. How would a
faithful wife define love when her husband cheats on her? You
cannot expect her to give you a good definition of love. This is
why it is very important to know who you are in love with. Don’t
build love on feelings or on the wrong foundation. Love is not
dangerous. There are many people who still enjoy love in
their relationship. Be very careful of whom you accept to
commit your heart to in love. Love is a decision and not an
option. Many people will still be deceived about the real meaning
of love. It becomes so appalling that a lot of teenagers and some
adults are still falling victims of these misconceptions about
love. God is love and He modeled it by giving up His only
Son for us. Any expression of love that will cost you your
body which is meant to be reserved for a special person is
not love. Not everybody that professes love to you truly
loves you. Some are attracted to you because of your body or
status. Moreover, love can see one’s weaknesses, only lust or
infatuation will fail to see it. Love does not grow out of
emotions or feelings; it takes decision to love and be
committed to the well-being of whom you decided to love, out
of one’s sacrificial effort without expecting a payback. Be mindful
of who you are in love with lest you give a wrong impression to
the next generation